Grace is a power that comes in and transforms a moment into something better. – Caroline Myss

How many of you like getting something for free? Free is one of my favorite words. That is one of the reason I love grace. It is unmerited favor, it isn’t earned or necessarily deserved. It is mercy in action and it is given freely and liberally!

Many of you may recognize the Grace Card™ in this picture. On the back of each card it says, “This gives you permission to love, accept and forgive yourself.” The acronym is LAF in case you forget, it is to remind each of us to lighten up and not take ourselves too seriously.

The best definition I have heard that explains forgiveness is “letting go of the past you wish you’d had.” Forgiving yourself and forgiving others is a POWERFUL thing to be able to do. Forgiveness is a key component to GRACE.

The acronym that describes GRACE to me is:
G- Giving
R- Radical
A -Acceptance
C – Consciously
E- Everyday!!

This is about giving others or yourself a reprieve or space. Please note this card spells out GRACE, it does not spell out E.X.C.U.S.E !! This is NOT an excuse card, the invitation to throw your hands in the air and not do your part. Excuses tap into one of those sassy sayings that gets thrown around. “It is easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.” That makes my hair stand on end and completely misses the whole point of grace!

This card originated from an experience I had 40 years ago. I remember it clearly. I lived in San Diego at the time. I was SUPER pregnant, it was hot and I was REALLY done with feeling like a balloon ready to pop and waddling! I also had a 2 ½ year old at the time. We were at big box store picking something up. My toddler was very determined and wanted to dress in a certain way that afternoon and was set in cement on how to wear their hair!! I knew it was not a hill I wanted to die on. And I do enjoy fostering self-expression…. YET, on the inside I was just PRAYING I didn’t run into anyone I knew. I was antsy to get back in the car We are waiting in the checkout line and suddenly I felt someone move in by my right ear and whisper, “I am SO proud of you.” My eyes instantly began to leak… I couldn’t turn around because I thought I would lose it. I felt SO seen and acknowledged in that moment. That woman extended me such kindness in that simple gesture. I have never forgotten it. I experienced grace in a moment when I really needed it.

A few years ago I had a dog named Freida who was a whack job. She was SO sweet, yet her brain misfired sometimes and she would freak out at stuff we couldn’t see or hear. When she was just a puppy I took her to see my Vet to see what we could do about this unpredictable behavior. My vet sat on the floor with Freida, he looked up at me and he said, “Frieda is limited Betsy, yet she is giving you 101% in her limitedness.” Again, I was struck by kindness being extended by this dear man (And watery eyes).

  • Grace is big, it gave Arch and me courage and hope. We chose to work through the irregularities with that sweet puppy. Our lives were enriched by this Beauty for 13 years.
  • Excuses make us small. Excuses would have convinced us we should re-home that puppy once we realized she was unpredictable and a handful. That decision would have been fueled by fear and made it justifiable to give up on Frieda before we even gave her a chance.

My desire today is that you will pay more attention to grace, kindness and what it feels like to be given a reprieve. Grace is an essential life skill that many of us are immune to or we over look.

Being in a state of grace allows happiness to thrive, and sadness will know its place in the mix.” – Donna Ashworth

Freed in the fieldYour Call to Action is that by the end of the day ,you will extend grace to someone or to yourself. The power of knowing that you acknowledged someone who was struggling when they didn’t earn your kindness or mercy.

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My desire is that this blog gives you strength, courage and a space for grace in your life! It is essential!